Monday, March 27, 2023

When will we protect our children?

a child in despair
Nashville suffered a horrific tragedy today.  Lives were taken, and we ask why?  What happened?  What failed?  What caused this?

While we grieve as a city, we ask questions and demand explanations, but they may not come for days, weeks, or even months.  They may never come.  

The families directly affected grieve in a way we can't understand, with hearts so broken that they may never heal.  They have holes in their lives and in their souls tonight that will never again be filled by anything more than memories.

We don't know what to do, what might help, so we offer thoughts and prayers.  Yes, it's good to show that we care, but those thoughts and prayers won't bring back those stolen lives, and they won't prevent more losses in the future.  

So what do we do?

Many will continue to pray.  Others will demand that we do things such as arm teachers or place armed guards in our schools.  However, are more guns really the answer?  We already have more than 393 million guns in the United States.  That breaks down to more than 1.2 guns per person.  Our military only has 4.5M, and our law enforcement agencies have a little more than 1M.  

We are, in all honesty, outgunned.

Martin Luther King Jr. said, "Violence begets violence; hate begets hate; and toughness begets a greater toughness. It is all a descending spiral, and the end is destruction — for everybody. Along the way of life, someone must have enough sense and morality to cut off the chain of hate."

And for those turning to prayer, there is Matthew 26:52.  "Then said Jesus unto him, Put up again thy sword into his place: for all they that take the sword shall perish with the sword."

Until we acknowledge that gun violence is now the number one killer of  our children and teenagers, and pledge to take active measures to change that, there's not much we can do.  We, as a nation, are "living by the gun,"  and our children are dying by it.

And now, because I have had the audacity to even think of gun reform, many will jump up and scream about the constitutional rights set forth by our founding fathers.  So, let me share with you the words of Thomas Jefferson, one of those founding fathers.

Jefferson wrote: “Some men look at constitutions with sanctimonious reverence, and deem them like the ark of the covenant, too sacred to be touched. They ascribe to the men of the preceding age a wisdom more than human, and suppose what they did to be beyond amendment. I knew that age well; I belonged to it, and labored with it. It deserved well of its country.

“I am certainly not an advocate for frequent and untried changes in laws and constitutions. I think moderate imperfections had better be borne with; because, when once known, we accommodate ourselves to them, and find practical means of correcting their ill effects.

“Laws and institutions must go hand in hand with the progress of the human mind. As that becomes more developed, more enlightened, as new discoveries are made, new truths disclosed, and manners and opinions change with the change of circumstances, institutions must advance also, and keep pace with the times. We might as well require a man to wear still the coat which fitted him when a boy, as civilized society to remain ever under the regimen of their barbarous ancestors.”

I am thankful for the rights our founding fathers fought so hard for us to have, as well as for those who continue to fight so that we may remain free, but times have changed.  We no longer require a "well-regulated militia" of citizens bearing arms to keep us safe. That is what we have tasked our military and law enforcement officials to do.  Jefferson foresaw the possible need to change our Constitution as we changed as a nation.  Why can't we see that?

I do not advocate we abolish gun ownership or anything even remotely that severe.  However, until we honestly reform our gun laws and advocate for responsible gun ownership, as well as better mental health care, we will continue to descend the spiral toward destruction.

What we are currently teaching our children is that worrying about dying in school, where they should feel safe, is normal.  It's not.  Solving problems with shootouts in the streets shouldn't be considered normal behavior either, but how often do we see it now?

By doing nothing, we are normalizing fear, hatred, ignorance, bigotry, racism, and violence for our children.  Then we cry and gnash our teeth when they respond with those very things.  We offer thoughts and prayers, but we do nothing real.  They say "children are our future," but look at the future we're giving them.

Please, do something to save our children.

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Note: One of the things we can do to help our children is to talk to them when bad things happen.  This Sesame Street video may help you do that.  

Sunday, March 26, 2023

What did I just hear?

I've always enjoyed music.  (I actually have a playlist for my life.)  If I'm alone I sing along to everything on the radio, even if I don't know the words.  I'll just make up my own lyrics and go for it.

But sometimes, well, sometimes...

I've always enjoyed "Semi-Charmed Life" by Third Eye Blind.  It's so upbeat and catchy.  I honestly thought it was a cute little love song.  Well... it's not.  I finally heard a line from the song a couple of weeks ago and looked up the lyrics.  Yeah, that is NOT a love song.  It's about doing crystal meth.  Did I hear it wrong?  Did I just not hear that line?  I have no idea, but it's not the only time I've done something like that.

In 1973 a band named Golden Earring released it's own catchy little tune.  Well, I guess it's not little since it comes in at around six minutes, but anyway...  I liked the song, and I would just belt out, "We've got a thing that's called Radar Love."  I sang it that way for two years or so, and then someone told me the name of the song wasn't "Radar Love" but was actually "Red Hot Love."  So, I changed up, and I've been singing "We've got a thing that's called Red Hot Love" for about the last 47 or 48 years.  

On my drive home this afternoon I heard the song on the radio, and I just sang my lungs out about "Red Hot Love."  As soon as I got home I went to add the song to my Oldies playlist on Amazon Music, but when I searched for "Red Hot Love" what came up was NOT the song I was looking for.  I couldn't find it anywhere, so, on a whim, I searched for "Radar Love" instead.  Heavens to Betsy!  I was singing it right the first time.  It really is "Radar Love."  I've been mishearing it for decades after I originally heard it correctly.

Misunderstood song lyrics are nothing new.  We don't understand or clearly hear a phrase, and our brain turns it into something that makes sense to us.  That's known as a mondegreen, a word coined by writer Sylvia Wright when she misunderstood a line in the "The Bonny Earl of Murray."  While Green heard "Lady Mondegreen," the actual line was "lay'd him on the green."

So, do we just mishear lyrics, or do we hear what want, like I did with "Semi-Charmed Life"?  I have no idea, but I'm getting a new Amazon Music play list out of it -- "Songs I obviously don't know the words to."